I have a lot of respect for you as a writer and as a person. Though we have only met a few times, we have many acquaintance in common, and those acquaintance value you as a friend and as a critical thinker. That all being said, perhaps it’s time for you to step back from the current conversation and just not say anything for a while ((I used to have links directly to Bujold’s comments on this post, but the Tor.com backend changed and now they’re not valid. To see her comments, search the page for Lois Bujold.)). Listening would be good, but really just stop talking for a bit, because you are not helping anyone at this point in time.
Just some friendly advice.